Healing By The Bay are a marriage counselling expert, Brisbane couples trust for honest, respectful and helpful counselling.


When Should You Go To Couples Counselling?

Don’t wait until things get out of hand to seek couples counselling. Although we recommend that you try to work through your problems together, you must seek the help of an experienced couple counsellor when you need it.

This will give you the space to work things out without putting too much strain on your relationship and each other.

Be aware that your partner may not be as willing to undergo couples counselling, but if one person is committed to it, the other may be willing to give it a go. Even if only one person is willing to work with a therapist, this can be helpful for the relationship and for the individual.

When do we seek help for our relationship?

All relationships face difficulties that can often only be resolved over time. The sooner you seek help, the better. However, when unfavourable communication patterns, interactions and behaviour have become ingrained, it is time to seek professional support through relationship counselling. It is best to seek couple or marriage counselling before the patterns have become entrenched. Many relationship problems can be solved by actively participating in marriage or relationship counselling.
Unfortunately, many people wait until they feel hopeless in their relationship before seeking couples counselling or individual therapy. Early intervention in relationship therapy is very beneficial.

If you can solve the problems in your relationship yourself, that’s great. However, if you have already tried and your attempts have been unsuccessful, seeking couples counselling from a psychologist can help move your relationship forward and free you from the confines of the negative patterns that have formed in your relationship. In an ideal world, both partners would be willing to seek the help of couples counselling. However, sometimes one partner is unwilling to do so.

It may seem like an intimidating idea at first but many couples find that their relationship benefits when they are open minded, and willing to work with their partner. Not only do couples have the opportunity to grow together and to learn from each other, but




It is not necessary to bring anything to your first couples counselling session or to prepare formally. Many couples like to think about why they are coming to counselling and what issues they want to discuss, but this is not essential.  

An experienced couples counsellor will be able to get the process going by asking questions that will start to get you thinking and talking about the problems you and your partner are having in your relationship.



In the first session, the ground rules and boundaries of relationship counselling are established. In this first session, you and your partner can expect the therapist to discuss confidentiality, reporting requirements (e.g., child abuse, etc.), their policies regarding refusals, and their methods when working with couples on relationship issues.

Once this information has been clarified, the couple’s counsellor usually takes a brief history describing the issues or problems that bring them to the consultation and the history of their relationship. 

Then, they may ask questions such as.

  •     What are the problems have you had in your relationship?
  •     How long have these problems been a problem in your relationship?
  •     Have you ever been to a relationship counsellor?
  •     What have you and your partner tried to resolve these problems?
  •     What are your expectations of couples counselling?

The first phase of sessions is mainly devoted to information gathering, although real and important problems may be discussed and worked on in this phase. The real counselling work usually begins in session two.


Couples counselling can have, among other benefits, the following benefits.

We learn to communicate better and to listen to our partner without jumping to conclusions or starting an argument;
Learning to better understand our partner’s struggles, challenges and fears;
Learn to argue and disagree without destroying each other in the process;
Improving intimacy, both sexual and non-sexual.
Learning to respect family relationships (especially in blended families);
Learning about personal boundaries and history that we may not have known before;
Deciding if the connection is still salvageable;
Mediating a relationship that is coming to an end.


If you feel your relationship could benefit couples counselling with Andrea. Get in touch, and we look forward to helping you.

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